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Love Bombing

The LGBTQ+ community (especially lesbians) are known for moving very quickly in romantic relationships. A stereotype like this is not inherently bad and could be true for a lot of people; but also may make some people feel very pressured when they find a new romantic interest. This is where love bombing happens. Love bombing is when someone smothers you with love and affection in order to manipulate you into relying on them or getting accustomed to the special treatment they give you, sometimes without ever having true feelings for you. Love bombing in lesbian relationships, I believe, is often a result of the stereotype and pressure to invest yourself emotionally into a relationship very fast. I have experienced this first hand where someone I was interested in moved very quickly and began smothering me with affection, which obviously made me like seeing them but then out of nowhere completely dropped me, as if they gave everyone in their life this much love and affection.


Love bombing is not immediately sexual either, it is emotional; it can be buying someone things, or always saying how much they miss you or want a relationship with you. For me, love bombing sucks and does not feel genuine. I like many others want a love that is genuine, and not one that forced to progress quickly in order to keep up with standards of LGBTQ+ relationships.


I want to hear what you think of this. Have you love bombed someone? Have you been love bombed? Do you feel pressured by these stereotypes? Maybe you disagree with me, is love bombing harmless?


- Bailey Wilson (Co-Founder)



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Love bombing SUCKS!!!! I know in the LGBTQ+ community, love bombing is FUCKED. However, as a straight female, I have also been love bombed as well. This shit sticks with you and it’s hard to understand why it’s happening and how to achieve it never happening again. These creatures who do this type of shit need to stop. It is unnecessary and fucking rude. If you have any suggestions on how to get the fuck out of a love bombing situationship, i am all ears.

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Alexa Johnstone
Alexa Johnstone
Nov 16, 2021

In my experience in the queer dating sphere, I have always been extremely cautious about how i manifest intentions with people. In the past, I have been love bombed and it was so hurtful! I found myself idealizing my partner and moved way too quickly: to balance out their acts and to satisfy my ego, as I was obsessed with how good it felt to be adored and pursued! However, love bombing is often times very inconsistent; which makes the receiver experience withdrawals of affection. As the affection waned, I found myself asking why? Did I do something? Did I mess up? Why doesn't the person feel as they once did? What made them stop? This is deceiving, and in…


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Alexa Johnstone
Alexa Johnstone
Nov 16, 2021

Thank you for bringing love bombing into the discourse of queer dating, Bailey! 😁

While most people associate physical and emotional abuse with masculinity, emotional abuse in woman loving woman relationships are just as, or even more prevalent. By the nature of an intimate relationship between two women, heightened emotions give rise to many adverse effects that are actually manipulative-- even if the love bomber doesn't know they're doing it. To the love bomber, loving acts, services, or words may be their attempt to demonstrate their feeling for you. Or in some cases, the love bomber is aware of their actions and is actually doing it with manipulative intent. While these acts may be executed with good intentions, exaggerated display…


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